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Males as a group have and do benefit the most from patriarchy, from the assumption that they are superior to females and should rule over us. But those benefits have come with a price. In return for all the goodies men receive from patriarchy, they are required to dominate women, to exploit and oppress us, using violence if they must to keep patriarchy intact. Most men find it difficult to be patriarchs. Most men are disturbed by hatred and fear of women, by male violence against women, even the men who perpetuate this violence. But they fear letting go of the benefits. They are not certain what will happen to the world they know most intimately if patriarchy changes. So they find it easier to passively support male domination even when they know in their minds and hearts that it is wrong.
— bell hooks, Feminism is for Everybody (via poeticallyspeaking13)
Reblogged from Quintessensual Queer
Can no worker take pleasure in aspects of their work despite capitalism? Can no woman take pleasure in sex despite patriarchy? If the answer is that they can, then why is it so hard to believe that there are sex-workers who choose and/or take pleasure in their work despite capitalism and patriarchy, and not because of them?
— Wobbly Sxworker
Patriarchy for it’s effective exercise depends not so much on raw power or legal authority, as on a recognition by all concerned of it’s legitimacy, hallowed by ancient tradition, moral theology and political theory. It survives so long as it is not questioned and challenged.

Lawrence Stone, The Family, Sex and Marriage in England 1500-1800

I’ve been researching the gender roles prevalent at the time of Milton and Aphra Behn (my dissertation topic) and this quote came up. I think it’s really fantastic.

(via feminismitmakessense)

Reblogged from BREAKOUT A-TOWN
The thing is, it’s patriarchy that says men are stupid and monolithic and unchanging and incapable. It’s patriarchy that says men have animalistic instincts and just can’t stop themselves from harassing and assaulting. It’s patriarchy that says men can only be attracted by certain qualities, can only have particular kinds of responses, can only experience the world in narrow ways. Feminism holds that men are capable of more – are more than that.

On claiming to be a stupid man who doesn’t know anything « Zero at the Bone

Exactly this. This is why I despise it when men refuse to have a conversation with me about these issues and instead play dumb.

(via ladyatheist)

Ahhhhhhh!!!! Yes!!!

(via wherethefuckdidiputmycigarettes)

And recognizing that our male dominated culture is fucked up doesn’t make you a self-hating man, either. When I first heard Bikini Kill, it was fucking thrilling. Hearing someone lash out against dominant sexist attitudes wasn’t exciting in some sort of “oh good for women, they’re standing up for themselves,” type of way. It was liberating to hear someone take on those traditional expressions of masculinity, because I hated the ways I was expected to act as a man. I hated the toughness and numbness that was expected from men, because I wanted to be able to express my emotions without fear of ridicule. I hated the predatory way that men acted towards women, because I wanted to be free to have meaningful relationships with women. Likewise, I hated the homophobia, because I wanted to have meaningful relationships with the men in my life. I see men around me all the time who refuse to show any signs of vulnerability for fear of appearing feminine, and they tend to cut themselves off emotionally from the world. It’s fucking sad. I see men all the time who only view their relationships in terms of conquest, and I can’t think of one of them who has a healthy emotional life. Breaking down ideas around male superiority and masculinity is absolutely in mens’ best interests. In a punk context, I can say with certainty that the scenes I’ve visited that were the most gender inclusive have always been the most exciting and thriving music communities. There’s nothing to be gained for men in maintaining the boy’s club.
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And recognizing that our male dominated culture is fucked up doesn’t make you a self-hating man, either. When I first heard Bikini Kill, it was fucking thrilling. Hearing someone lash out against dominant sexist attitudes wasn’t exciting in some sort of “oh good for women, they’re standing up for themselves,” type of way. It was liberating to hear someone take on those traditional expressions of masculinity, because I hated the ways I was expected to act as a man. I hated the toughness and numbness that was expected from men, because I wanted to be able to express my emotions without fear of ridicule. I hated the predatory way that men acted towards women, because I wanted to be free to have meaningful relationships with women. Likewise, I hated the homophobia, because I wanted to have meaningful relationships with the men in my life. I see men around me all the time who refuse to show any signs of vulnerability for fear of appearing feminine, and they tend to cut themselves off emotionally from the world. It’s fucking sad. I see men all the time who only view their relationships in terms of conquest, and I can’t think of one of them who has a healthy emotional life. Breaking down ideas around male superiority and masculinity is absolutely in mens’ best interests. In a punk context, I can say with certainty that the scenes I’ve visited that were the most gender inclusive have always been the most exciting and thriving music communities. There’s nothing to be gained for men in maintaining the boy’s club.

-David Combs (Spoonboy)

(via caviarmpits)

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andyouhavetogivethemhope:

[Image: A white banner at a protest that says, “Feminism: Back due to popular demand.”]

andyouhavetogivethemhope:

[Image: A white banner at a protest that says, “Feminism: Back due to popular demand.”]

Reblogged from From theory, action.

Pointing out that men are privileged in no way denies that bad things happen to men. Being privileged does not mean men are given everything in life for free; being privileged does not mean that men do not work hard, do not suffer. In many cases – from a boy being bullied in school, to a soldier dying in war – the sexist society that maintains male privilege also does great harm to boys and men.

In the end, however, it is men and not women who make the most money; men and not women who dominate the government and the corporate boards; men and not women who dominate virtually all of the most powerful positions of society. And it is women and not men who suffer the most from intimate violence and rape; who are the most likely to be poor; who are, on the whole, given the short end of patriarchy’s stick.

droppingthefbomb:

stfufauxminists:

[Image: The image shows a blonde, white, tattooed woman posing nude in a sexual manner. Text over this image reads: “When a woman chooses to voluntarily display herself as being a sexual object, that’s her choosing to be displayed sexually. That isn’t patriarchal sexual objectification. It’s a personal decision. Don’t slut shame, right?”]
So uh, this makes no sense. And here’s why: The word “choose” invalidates the word “object” because objects don’t choose. That’s kind of the point. Choice brings agency. So, if an individual woman makes the choice to be sexual, she is not being objectified.
Now, I know this was offered as a means to disprove the feminist notion that many ads, pornographic outlets, etc. objectify women. Well, here’s the thing. Men as a class have most of the power when it comes to producing these outlets - be they media, advertisements, pornography, what have you. Therefore, even if an individual woman is choosing to partake in a process that portrays her as being solely sexual, the choice for that to be the defining factor of women in general is no longer present, and thus the agency of women as a class is voided. Thus, sexual objectification. That’s not to say individual women shouldn’t choose to do this, sure, go ahead. But to deny that because individual women are choosing to be portrayed as solely sexual there is no cultural or social problem when it comes to who constructs the dominant narrative and the complete oversaturation of the market with the idea of women as static, narrowly defined objects in accordance with male interest is ridiculous. Participation in the system is not evidence of its non-existence.
Anyway, the feminist solution to the objectification problem (as I know it) is to bring diversity not only to the types of people portrayed in these ways, but also to the types of people who own the means of controlling these outlets. If everyone had equal access to and equal participation in the process of defining and creating social narratives, objectification would no longer be an issue.
And, hopefully, neither would reactionary bullshit tumblrs. 
PS - Criticizing the culture for perpetuating the dominance of narratives and norms created by and for men isn’t slut-shaming. I also think it’s incredibly ironic that a blog which ardently defends slut-shaming is not using that idea to silence feminists while simultaneously not grasping the concept of objectification. Your knuckles are getting white you’re clutching straws so tightly.

^
I am so sick and tired of people trying to justify their slut shaming

droppingthefbomb:

stfufauxminists:

[Image: The image shows a blonde, white, tattooed woman posing nude in a sexual manner. Text over this image reads: “When a woman chooses to voluntarily display herself as being a sexual object, that’s her choosing to be displayed sexually. That isn’t patriarchal sexual objectification. It’s a personal decision. Don’t slut shame, right?”]

So uh, this makes no sense. And here’s why: The word “choose” invalidates the word “object” because objects don’t choose. That’s kind of the point. Choice brings agency. So, if an individual woman makes the choice to be sexual, she is not being objectified.

Now, I know this was offered as a means to disprove the feminist notion that many ads, pornographic outlets, etc. objectify women. Well, here’s the thing. Men as a class have most of the power when it comes to producing these outlets - be they media, advertisements, pornography, what have you. Therefore, even if an individual woman is choosing to partake in a process that portrays her as being solely sexual, the choice for that to be the defining factor of women in general is no longer present, and thus the agency of women as a class is voided. Thus, sexual objectification. That’s not to say individual women shouldn’t choose to do this, sure, go ahead. But to deny that because individual women are choosing to be portrayed as solely sexual there is no cultural or social problem when it comes to who constructs the dominant narrative and the complete oversaturation of the market with the idea of women as static, narrowly defined objects in accordance with male interest is ridiculous. Participation in the system is not evidence of its non-existence.

Anyway, the feminist solution to the objectification problem (as I know it) is to bring diversity not only to the types of people portrayed in these ways, but also to the types of people who own the means of controlling these outlets. If everyone had equal access to and equal participation in the process of defining and creating social narratives, objectification would no longer be an issue.

And, hopefully, neither would reactionary bullshit tumblrs. 

PS - Criticizing the culture for perpetuating the dominance of narratives and norms created by and for men isn’t slut-shaming. I also think it’s incredibly ironic that a blog which ardently defends slut-shaming is not using that idea to silence feminists while simultaneously not grasping the concept of objectification. Your knuckles are getting white you’re clutching straws so tightly.

^

I am so sick and tired of people trying to justify their slut shaming

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clitorisaurusrex:

askepticandafeminist:

feministfury:

slunt:

hypocritemaster:sparklysubversivenouns:sexismandthecity:nihilistidealist




 Yep. Still funny when you see someone you know being reblogged on your dash a handful of times.This is a pretty old picture. She’s still smashin’.

I wish this kind of protest happenend more often where I live…

vulpes-vulpes:

clitorisaurusrex:

askepticandafeminist:

feministfury:

slunt:

hypocritemaster:sparklysubversivenouns:sexismandthecity:nihilistidealist

 Yep. Still funny when you see someone you know being reblogged on your dash a handful of times.
This is a pretty old picture. She’s still smashin’.

I wish this kind of protest happenend more often where I live…