As much as we get praised for loving our full bodies, many young white women would rather be dead than wear a size 14. They nod their heads and say how great it is that we black women can embrace our curves, but they don’t want to look like us. They don’t adopt our presumably more generous beauty ideals. White women have even told me how lucky black women are that our men love and accept our bodies the way they are. I’ve never heard a white woman say that she’s going to take her cue from black women and gain a few pounds, however. In a way it is patronizing, because they’re basically saying, “It’s OK for you to be fat, but not me. You’re black. You’re different.”
In this society we have completely demonized fat. How many times have you had to tell a friend of yours that she isn’t fat? How many times has she had to tell you the same thing? Obviously, when people have unrealistic perceptions of themselves it should not go unnoticed, but in this act, while we are reassuring our friends, we put down every woman who is overweight. The demonization of fat and the ease of associating black women with fat exposes yet another opportunity for racism. If we really want to start talking more honestly about all women’s relationships with our bodies, we need to start asking the right questions.
Sirena J. Riley, “The Black Beauty Myth” (via wretchedoftheearth)
Why white fat activists need to sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up with their fucking racist ass “Black men LOVE fat women” bullshit.
NO THE FUCK THEY DON’T.
Fat Black women are DESPISED. We are always blamed for the vitriol that we receive, because Mammy deserves to be hated when she dares try to come out of her station.
I think also that just because we have weight standards that aren’t as restrictive as whites, it doesn’t mean their isn’t restriction for fat Black women or that they never get ridiculed. Their is a lot of fucked up ways of teasing fat Black women within the community white people wouldn’t even recognize. And when black men treat white fat women differently than black fat women its saying lots